Many people will agree that being respectful and having good manners means you were raised right. But the real question is what kind of values does someone who was raised right actually have?

Does it mean going to church every Sunday? Does it mean having no bad habits, such as drinking, smoking, or swearing?

What if someone else’s idea of being “raised right” is completely different from yours? In other words, the idea of being raised right and having personal values is highly subjective. Everyone will define these two issues differently.

The truth of the matter is: Judging people regarding their values, which differentiate from yours, doesn’t make you a well-brought-up person. It’s is a kind of fakeness. If you expect people who smoke, party, or drink to fit into your idea of “being raised right”, means that you are the one who has poor values.

It means forcing others to deny a part of themselves to make you happy.

When it comes to family values, you may get a range of definitions from different people. In my home, family values include respecting and loving each other without passing judgment if someone lives differently. Other people may probably provide completely different definitions.

Everyone deserves to be respected and live a high-quality life. Passing judgment on others just because they live differently takes this right away from them.

The whole idea about people who are well-brought-up is that they treat everyone with respect regardless of their looks, interests, or status.

Therefore, not being judgmental and doing no harm to others means you were raised right. But, make sure you don’t let others pass judgment on you as well.

Surround yourself with genuine people only. They are honest and raised to accept you just the way you are.

Source: I Heart Intelligence